Just HUSH ... It's That Simple!

Learn to keep your mouth shut. Seriously, it’s NOT that hard.  It doesn’t matter how trivial you think the story is, don’t share it.  If it's not your story to tell, don't freakin' tell it.  I’ve always made it a point to respect other people’s wishes.  If someone hasn't revealed something, there's obviously a reason for it.  If you claim to be their friend, you especially shouldn't be gossiping about them to others.

People gossip constantly.  People are insecure, so they talk about other people so that they won’t be talked about. They point out the negatives in other people's lives to make them feel better about their own life.  Gossip is not only a bad habit, it is also an arrogant sin.  Some feel powerful if they have information to divulge about another person.  Do not encourage gossip and rumors. If you cannot avoid hearing, you don’t have to repeat.

We live in a world where we want to be the first to know, the first to share, and first to break the news. We thrive on spreading shocking news, and have little regard for those it could affect, but it’s NOT your story to tell.

Even though I enjoy blogging, I'm a pretty private person.  I don't share every detail of my life on here.  I only share what I believe can help others.  I blog about things after I've dealt with them on my own.  I blog to clear my mind.  I certainly don't blog so that people will pity me.  I'm cautious about what I post because I know how people are these days.  People are always sharing your story for you - good or bad.  Even when I was pregnant, I waited 20 weeks before sharing that news.  The moment I did, it was like a wildfire.  Your good news should be yours to spread and feel excited about.  Others always want to rain on your parade. Your bad news should not be gossiped about either, but it happens anyways.  No one can understand your emotions, but YOU.  

Unless you have walked in my shoes or the person's shoes you are talking about, don't say you understand & don't say you spread their news out of concern.  That is just that BULLSHIT.  Yes, I am calling your BLUFF.

Comfort & Privacy to All ....

~ J. Lynn

Life Is A Box of Chocolates...

"Life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get." - Forrest Gump

My life is certainly like a box of chocolates -- I never thought I'd get what I got, but I wouldn't change a thing!  With getting pregnant unexpectedly and being a single mom from day one, my life has been a whirlwind.  I have always been a goal digger and a planner.  I've learned that you can't plan everything, but you can always accomplish your goals as long as you give the effort.  

Don't let anyone keep you from being YOU.  Don't let anyone make you feel inferior.  Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your shortcomings or unplanned life events.  I've been judged most of my life.  I've been teased about my weight.  I've been gossiped about for dating another race.  I've been labeled for having premarital sex.  The list goes on and on.  Not only have strangers passed judgment on me, but so has my family.  It's a cruel world out there, but you have to remember to focus on God and all things positive.  

We can't worry about what may or may not happen.  We can only focus on what we have control over.  You have to let Jesus take the wheel.  You have to strive to achieve the goals necessary to get where you want in life.  You can't let anyone or anything get in the way of your destiny.  Have faith and you will end up seeing what you were once only believing. 

Others may view me as a "f***-up", a "slut", a "fat girl", a "skinny girl", "big sinner", etc. BUT what matters is how I view myself.  I am NOT a f***-up,  I am NOT too fat or too skinny.  I am NOT a slut.  I AM a sinner, but hey - we all are -- we're HUMAN.

No matter what trials and tribulations I go through, I always come out on top.  I continue to strive through the shitty days and disappointments.  I stay focused on God's word.  I keep my mind filled with positive thoughts, and I chase my damn goals like every woman should!  While I was on maternity leave, I had three goals that I wanted to accomplish -- (1) live in the present moment with my son (2) become a certified personal trainer (3) lose the majority of my pregnancy weight gain.  Well guess what?  I DID ALL THAT!

I used to be a naive girl who believed that I needed others to validate my worth.  Now, I know MUCH better.  I refuse to let anyone tell me who I am.  I ignore the nay-sayers and the haters.  I chase my dreams regardless of the cards I get dealt.  Things may take longer than expected, but everything always comes together in the end.  So, this blog post is to INSPIRE & MOTIVATE every woman out there who needs to be lifted up and reminded that they are worthy of their dreams. It doesn't matter what kind of chocolate you get, it all turns out to be AMAZING!

~ J. Lynn